Compliment Addiction and Making Everyone “Girly:” Why Current Feminism Fails

The Blue Origin NS-31 space flight that included singer Katy Perry has recently been the topic of mockery on the Internet. Feminists are hailing it as the next major milestone for women since Valentina Tereshkova’s historic mission in 1963. They may also say that it is the women’s right since they have the money for it and we “peasants” are just jealous. However, I agree with critics pointing out that the “crew” were actually just passengers on an automated flight that was funded by Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos – making it just another rich man’s hobby toy and 10-minute rich girls’ “road” trip. It’s just as hyped as movie star weddings.

Aside from the over-hype, I think it brought along some toxic feminism among the defense. If you don’t praise the women involved or acknowledge their “astronautness,” you are a bigot or misogynist (I might be called one for writing this article after all). Something from the communist playbook.

“Girly-Group” Behavior

I’m also thinking the “girls’ complimenting each other” habit that I mentioned in my Social Media Likes article contributes to the toxicity. I thought that this tendency is something that should stay within girls’ circles; don’t let it get to males. Now I realize that it already has been in males… and many other groups, such as the LGBT+ movement. They make compliment-giving and positive affirmation requirements for others and try to “cancel” anyone who doesn’t comply, even if compliments and affirmation are undeserved. As long as compliment-seeking becomes an obsession in any group or gender, bloated egos, unreasonableness, and toxicity spread.

“Women’s Logic”

Perhaps it’s just the so-called “women’s logic.” Of course, it is a stereotype of illogic (should it be “women’s illogic?”) and even men can have it. When women are angry while illogical, the Filipino word for it is “toyo” or soy sauce; in American pop culture, it’s the ”karen.” As a married friend said, some women seem wired to whine. Being a scale modeler with other hobbies, I have heard of women partners angrily demanding that their men stop their hobbies and just pour all the money on them. That’s somewhat like the pokpoks in this country seeking to leech rich foreign visitors of their money.

Some have probably heard of the joke where a woman in an airplane complained about the window in the plane’s bathroom, fearing that someone will be peeping at her from outside. At least it was another woman, a flight attendant, who retorted that at this altitude, if someone is peeping at you, they deserve to see everything! Gives me the impression that women are more likely to believe fanciful magical thinking like The Secret and Manifesting (or at times, it could be schizophrenia or other mental conditions, leading to loss of touch with reality).

This may be a personal gripe, but I don’t like it when mothers sometimes take some of their children’s clothes and other belongings and give it to other people without the children’s knowledge. Also, I remember when I was told to give off my old phone to a family member rather than sell it off. Problem is, that encourages mendicancy. That makes me theorize that socialist ideas actually started in families where the mom or other family member is a whimsical “redistributor.”

We Compliment-Fishers Must Rule!

I think the “girls’ complimenting attitude” gives the illusion that women are better than men, so they want to rule over society. Of course, this is a theory on one of the real drivers behind feminism as well as Wokeness. When they don’t succeed in their takeovers, they lash out with their “bigot” and “despot” namecalling.

So if compliment-fishers think they are better than men or others, they will only accept others who are like themselves and hate those are unlike them. This might also fuel the claim that if everyone were more like women, the world would be more peaceful. Yeah, right, as if thinking you are better than others isn’t toxic itself. I have heard that some females can be worse than males when they become abusive while in power. It may be a moot topic, but it’s a lie to say females have no toxicity.

Do Easy times Create Weak People?

I surmised that one reason for the idea of “women’s illogic” is the female culture (as well as culture of the youth) that developed after World War 2. With the end of the war, women were no longer needed in factories and other lines of work where they used to be mainstays. This meant that they stay home most of the time as housewives. They had more idle time to gather with other wives and gossip (like in ancient times, creating “Old Wives’ Tales”). Further fueling the potential for misinformation was mass media in the form of radio and television, which gave them topics to gossip on, including celebrity worship. This spreads to other members of the family (even the men at work).

Advertising and marketing teach women to focus on vanity, appearance, and self-aggrandizement, and this later spread to men. Celebrity worship culture (i.e. Katy Perry and the other women on this flight) was built up in order to facilitate the consumerism. The marketing messages also encourage treating anyone not following the trend as “out.” Some people who are anti-racist or against discrimination seem to fail at criticizing discrimination of the “untrendy.”

Also, the recent fiasco on the live action Snow White movie reminds me of how some people today could be called Disney Princesses, spoiled people expecting to be treated like princesses. As the princesses are the main characters of the story and are spoiled by their “Prince Charmings,” the young people develop main character syndrome and become as obnoxious as Rachel Zegler was during her notorious “promotion” of her movie.

Conclusion

My suggestion that people (not just “girls”) should overcome the compliment-seeking habit and stop seeking such as entitlements (or stop seeking any entitlement at all) is more likely be slammed as “sexist hate speech.” But feminists and their ilk have to understand that real peace is obtained by being tolerant of even what seems offensive. For example, closed-minded girls often find boys offensive and rude; but they must understand that male traits contribute to the survival of the species.

As esteemed webmaster Benign0 recently wrote, people are so addled by social media that they get trapped in their main character syndrome bubbles, ready to explode if they don’t get enough compliments. Wait… as if that syndrome didn’t infect Filipinos already for years as evidenced by the Pinoy Pride mantra – Filipinos deserve compliments, or else you are Anti-Filipino! That core of Filipino culture will have to change if we want real improvement in our country.