Wow! Turns out my initial hunches about the Vhong Navarro incident were right! Unlike Senator Bong Revilla’s toy truckload of evidence (literally), the evidence burying mobster Cedric Lee and girlette Deniece Cornejo is mountainous (figuratively). As such, I find it hard to believe it when I see some people still coming to the defense of Deniece. And some of these people are playing the bizarre card; the “being invited to your place is not license for rape” sort of thing.
Well, it is bizarre because the NBI findings have shown that rape (or, for that matter, any other monkey business) could not have possibly happened given the timeframes pieced together even if it was Deniece who had invited Vhong to her place.
But that is really not the point I wanted to make here. What I really wanted to highlight is the rather interesting way that rape is regarded nowadays. One of my colleagues has a son who is turning thirteen and I once overheard her telling him: “Be careful with how you behave with girls. If you are not careful, they might accuse you of rape.”
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Another colleague of mine told me about a female barkada of hers who is married but had an affair with a male colleague. They were caught by the husband somehow, but the girl then said that she was raped by her former lover to save her ass. The guy got fired.
Where is the justice?
Step back from that and we see the bigger lesson in this current circus. There are lots of desperate women out there — borderline predatorial in their wretched desperation. I read from the grapevine that Deniece comes from a whole clan of starirays trying to break into showbiz. If it is true that she’s done a full surgical restructure of her face at the ripe age of 22, that kind of reinforces that piece of tsismis. Worse, she’s got a pit bull of a boyfriend “sponsoring” her phony lifestyle — a lifestyle, it seems, she is willing to let someone get all beat up for. Kawawang Vhong. I read in the papers that CCTV footage seemingly shows him carrying a pasalubong on that fateful second visit to her condo. He even reportedly waved back at the building staff who recognized him. Would a man planning to rape someone do all that?
In the good ol’ days, mothers used to tell young girls, Hwag kayo magpaligaw sa kalye (“Don’t entertain suitors outdoors”). Well, so much for that. An entire generation of boys will now grow up thinking twice about visiting the object of their affections at their (the girls’) place. Maybe too that is why guys take sex videos nowadays — so that they have proof that the sex was consensual. So sorry na lang mga girlettes. You’ll just have to set up your reception office at the food court of a mall instead of your flat.
Make no mistake, rape is a serious crime and anyone who’s been raped should report the incident as soon as possible. Trouble is, it is morons who use rape to cover their asses that are ruining this centerpiece of women’s issues activists. Thing is, some women lie about being raped because of shame over a sexual “indiscretion” (a term loosely used in Philippine society). Ironic, because we are supposed to be a modern society that celebrates women’s “right” to “satisfying” sex. Yet we also harshly judge women who are caught with her hands in the cookie jar. Oops! The guy made me do it! Poor guy ends up in the slammer.
Frustrated artist doing geek for a living.
Can men accuse women of rape, and if yes – Will the public believe him/us?
I am quite aware that it is possible for such a thing to occur, but in our country/society it would probably be viewed as a laughing matter…unless Vhong claims that it was not Deknees that was raped, but himself.
Yes. Anyone can file a complaint for rape. Gender is not a question in this issue. There are men victims of rape but does not file a complaint. If you’re a male and a victim of rape, would you file or not? Why or why not?
Raped filipino men will less likely complain. In the Philippine culture, men are expected to be strong and to defend of women from harm. A man raped, especially by a girl, signals weakness on his part.
a man can be a rape victim under the new legal version/definition rape. you can ask any updated lawyer on the matter. the law on rape has long been amended already.
Well, I don’t question the legal aspect of a man filing rape case againts someone in the Philippine court. I do, however, have doubts if a majority of rape-victim, filipino men can overcome the cultural shame they’ll face, knowing they’re a rape victim.
Filipino culture values a strong, dependable man and a man raped by someone, especially by a woman, will bring torrents of shame on him.
No… sexual assault lang pede file kpg lalake magkakaso sa babae,not rape,..
Everyone is trying to work the system. It is just as likely to be accused of something you didn’t do; rather than something you did.
This predatory self-obsessed specimen is using sexuality as a tool way beyond what is normal.
Flirting for attention
Consensual sex to gain favor/finance
Crying rape to gain ?revenge/finance
And crying rape is a powerful weapon, but fortunately not in the hands of a simpleton who might as well have put the whole disgusting charade on internet.
And crying rape from a woman can not only result in ruining a mans marriage/life but also mean the next real rape victim gets slightly less support/belief.
Lets hope justice is served swiftly and completely and that we do not descend into even more of a telenovela, play delaying tactics/appeals for years, technical legal games or outright bribery – the lawyer is going to try to get the cctv ruled as inadmissable!, and in the philippine$ anything is possible, or bonnie and clyde simply hop on a plane.
Lets also hope that society takes a hard line on both rapists and those who cry rape. It is too common even amongst congressmen/mayors and even pnoy aquinos psg staff inside malacanan. Naturally nothing was done. From comfort women onwards it is about time women had more equality, respect, and that they also fight their own corner otherwise subservient attitudes/slave mentality are likely to be seen as easy targets.
I remember asking a group of ofw’s how many of them had been raped/sexually abused – i was staggered that it was close to 60%. Civilised or barbaric. Society must choose and act accordingly.
Reminds me of the “Mormon sex in chains case” the woman in question is Joyce Bernann McKinney, a former Miss Wyoming.
How can someone just cry rape and accuse whomever they want? Isn’t there a burden of proof that rape actually happened? If she was really raped, she should have been checked by doctors to confirm her accusations to have a case.
Welp.
http://i61.tinypic.com/28hn6rs.jpg
Yay or nay?
“Good girls are just bad girls never caught.”
Now this reminds me of a friend when he was a teenager, he got raped by a girl-friend who gave him intoxicating drink so that she could turn him into a real macho since he was sort of cute, fair-skinned but lame and “swarding”; so it was mission accomplished for the girl and the boy woke up naked and feeling tired. To cut the story short, the girl who raped him, luckily or unluckily got pregnant and beg of him to support her, so he did until she delivered. It was a baby girl whose looks just like him, and with respect to the girl, in order to save face, she left the baby to him for him to raise up and went home to her parents as if nothing happened. My friend didn’t bother to file a complain because it is something difficult to present to the public and besides he loves the baby; and he raised the child as his lovable sister because the sexual experience did not change him in fact he remained “gay” and is now an accomplished hairdresser managing his own beauty salon.
sayang na kagandahan, hindi puweding pagtiwalaan…
‘Make no mistake, rape is a serious crime and anyone who’s been raped should report the incident as soon as possible.’
Remember Maria Rosa Luna Henson and Walterina Markova? Both were rape victims in the 1940s during the Japanese occupation of the Philippines in WWII but only in their twilight years they have decide to come out with their experiences.
In the case of Lola Rosa, she was 65 years old in 1992 when she decided to tell her story publicly. According to ‘Comfort Woman: A Slave of Destiny’, a book about her, only two people had known of her secret, her late mother and her dead husband. But her story inspired other women victims not only from here but also in Korea and China to demand a public apology from the Japs. Walterina’s story is different…he’s actually a man! His bio inspired the film Markova which was screened in Brussels International Film Festival in 2001.
Life is full of surprises and your judgement might be wrong as things unfold eventually!
‘I find it hard to believe it when I see some people still coming to the defense of Deniece. And some of these people are playing the bizarre card; the “being invited to your place is not license for rape” sort of thing.’
Here’s a quote from Kat Alano, a former ABS-CBN celebrity herself who she says was raped by a co-worker (whose name allegedly rhymes with ‘WRONG’) nine years ago!
It started with an invitation:
And he said to me, ‘Let me drive you home.’ And I was like, ‘No, it’s okay. I will go with my friends, my friends are gonna come with me.’ He said, ‘No let me drive you home,'” she continued.
Alano said he was insistent and she eventually agreed. “You meet somebody at work you don’t assume that something bad is gonna happen.”
And then rape happened…and after nine years:
“I didn’t want to come out with this. I didn’t want it at all. But now that all these things happened, I was caught by all of these things and I was told by so many people what happened to them, I needed to tell them, ‘Here I am. This happened to me. I don’t need to be ashamed anymore. It’s not my fault and it’s not your fault either and if you are a victim like me then you need to speak up because that’s part of freeing yourself, that is part of letting go and that’s not easy,'” she explained.
Probably Ms. Kate Natividad feels indifferent because she would not know what it feels like to be a victim of rape!
Your post didn’t age well after nearly NINE years. Vhong Navarro NOT GUILTY.