Get Real Philippines (GRP) is first and foremost a media operation. So its mission is very simple: to develop and articulate groundbreaking and insightful ideas and disseminate these to as big an audience as possible. The approach to developing these ideas — critical thinking — is what unites the men and women who run the various blogs and media channels that make up the GRP Network. The dissemination of these ideas is done through a number of media forms (blogs, videos, and engaging in social media chatter) and through a number of communication techniques (literary and composition styles, icons and symbols, and illustration).
In short, GRP is in the business of talk.
Is talk cheap?
Obviously it isn’t. Otherwise every man and his dog would be running successful and widely-read blogs, e-zines, and other websites, or writing bestselling or seminal books, or running top tier consulting firms. We do what we do, not because it is an end in it self, but because it is our contribution to the effort. Not everyone can be doers (in the sense of how politicians see themselves as “doers”) in the same way that not everyone can be writers — or, for that matter, lawyers, or engineers, or physicists, or teachers, or singers, or chefs, or politicians, or great parents.

The main weakness of Philippine society lies in an imbalance in the expectations we levy upon its different sectors. This imbalance is best encapsulated in this statement:
We expect the low product of the majority to be subsidised by the exceptional output of the minority.
Back in 2003, this statement was qualified further in a whole article expounding on the Filipino’s ethic of self-reliance with its key message encapsulated in the following excerpt:
Our prospects for prosperity, however, lie within ourselves — not in a messianic bunch of leaders and exceptional few who are yet to come and not in the altruism of the more fortunate. What we need is the courage and open-mindedness to understand clearly what we need to do to re-tool our culture, mindsets and thought processes, and approach to doing things so that a nation-building machine that is truly able to compete could emerge out of the collective and quiet achievement of the majority.
Let’s change these medieval beliefs in salvation through heroic deeds and focus more on the more mundane aspects of nation-building.
Let’s allow everyone to do their jobs properly without being burdened by expectations that accompany heroic labels.
Let’s change our self-righteous penchant for calling one another to heroic and extraordinary deeds and instead find value in the collective effect of each individual doing their ordinary jobs properly and quietly.
Recognising achievement is different from lionising personalities. It takes well-thought out efforts (that requires serious evaluation of fundamental truths about ourselves) to realise sustainable development. When one recognises achievement, one expresses admiration and seeks to emulate said achievement. When one lionises personalities, one places said personality on a pedestal to worship and pin their hopes on. The earlier focuses on acquiring traits that support excellence. The latter focuses on expectations to live by and has come to acquire the stink of Erap-ism.
Pity then the person who lives by the glib dismissal of those who work towards building the intellectual foundations of a society: Puro kayo dakdak (you are “all talk”). This is an affirmation of the reality of what the Philippines has become — a nation that is the result of lots of action underpinned by very little thinking.
Core competencies
So talk — good talk — is, indeed, not cheap. The fact is, it is very difficult to find people who possess exceptional command over the two key core competencies that the people who form the GRP Network are gifted with in abundance — (1) developing insightful ideas, and (2) communicating these ideas to a mass audience. Perhaps a third is being able to do both rapidly.
The third competency proposed — being able to produce and disseminate rapidly — is not quite a competency of GRP — yet. And that is where the next big challenge lies. The job of GRP does not end with talk, but the part of the mission statement, “…to as big an audience as possible” is a capability that is still a work in progress. But we are getting there. What started as an obscure website design practice site back in 2000 is now honoured by a network of the most insightful, creative, and original men and women of the Philippine blogosphere who have opted to identify themselves with the GRP name.
Perhaps we will update our Mission Statement someday (mission statements are not meant to be set in stone). But that’s a next step in what is really a long one-step-at-a-time journey. We still have a long way to go. But we continue to appreciate the contribution of every member of the GRP community and the conscious effort it takes to maintain a clarity of purpose in our minds to ensure that we do not get lost along the way.






Well Mr. Haighton,
After having read your ramblings on here and given them careful conideration, I have now come to the conclusion that you are a person with some sort of ‘personality problem’.
Making constant comparisons between philippines and holland seems a bit futile. It is apples and pears. That is accepted, but all the time!!!
If you simply want to promote/boost holland pride at the philippines expense then it does not achieve a great deal, and also whilst you are perfectly entitled to be an atheist ( i am as well), it seems to be your main agenda/focus, and underpins some distorted thinking/logic.
I am not sure what your main points are, unless your partner does not stimulate you enough, and you just like being argumentative and want chatmates, or are feeling frustrated.
Clearly you are better off in holland and have no intention of moving – the culture shock would be too much, – so why the obsession with philippines, beyond a curiosity because your girlfriend is filipina.
If you want to learn – and there is little credibility without experience – read and research and live here but do not prejudge on little/no experience, then you might have something meaningful to say.
Confusing when your sister is your mother, and your brother is your lover. Freud would have had a field day in holland.
P.s. peace and free love. Send me your daughters phone number.
Libertas,
You may call me ignorant and sometime naive. I just didnt think – before hand – that the differences were so huge and that many.
I sometimes do lay out/explain (here in GRP) how we do things here in my country. I dont want to judge but bottomline: I do think my country is more relaxed about things and that makes living a lot easier, whether one is gay, lesbian, single, virgin, widowed or heterosexual.
I just wonder why it has to be so complicated for themselves. I will bypass all those laws, regulations, rules and traditions (written & unwritten) with my partner bec she said many times she loves the dutch/european culture much more. And her brother told me the same.
I didn’t call you ignorant.
I simply questioned your world view, and whether you represent the other side of the very same coin which you criticise. A product of your own culture to such an extent that your view and perspective on other cultures always starts with a closed and critical mind.
It sounds like the result of a narrow life – ? Small town/village, not a global traveller or corporate man
No doubt a farmer – that would explain a lot!!
Try getting a russian or cuban girlfriend next.
I will ask my GP (general practionior).
Libertas,
I just made a mistake thinking that most people on this planet would think and feel more the same. That is not the case as it turned out. My naive mistake.
The people of the Philippines should never change their behavior bec I like to see that happen. All I think is that if they change their behavior in a more modern way, it will make their own lives more comfortable. Thats all.
Reading all the Blogs here, I dont see that happen very fast. Not my loss. Far from it, to be my loss.
And even without reading those Blogs here, I cant imagine it will happen within within one century.
And let me remind you of the fact, The Netherlands lived almost the same way as the Philippines do today. Only that was 60-70 years ago for us.
I am trying to show my partner how we live and how she can live as well. For the rest, its up to her what she wants. I am not gonna force her into something she doesnt want.
Libertas,
btw: I am not a farmer/peasant. Born in Amsterdam. And there is nothing wrong with Russian women. They too want to get away from their Russian guys. They are fed up of getting beaten up and the guys being drunk all the time (wodka).
[quote]btw: I am not a farmer/peasant.[/quote]
And God is his witness!!
Libertas,
Excellent posts!!..
You have filled in the blanks quite nicely!!
I’ve read most of the comments on here and I somewhat agree to an extent that the Philippines has a “dysfunctional” government, therefore is considered a dysfunctional country and only by means of change can come to the standards of what the world currently calls a “First World Country.” But I don’t think bagging on it’s Religion and Culture will change it at all.
I am a Filipino-Canadian, and being born and growing up in Canada I had that “outsiders” perspective of the Philippines and of Canada as well because at first glance I was considered an outsider here as well. Going back to the Philippines several times made me realize how different Philippines and Canada are and while growing up, I wanted the Philippines to be just like Canada. I wanted it to change because Canada was what I was used to. Growing up in Canada made me arrogant towards the Philippines because Canada was considered a first world country (yes, I know now it’s shameful to think like that), but, you know what, I believe that arrogance is the sort of mentality the colonists had when they were colonizing the Philippines and after reading your comments, Robert, is what I seemed to sense in them. Of course, I could be wrong, after all I don’t personally know you, I only know of you from what you’ve written here. But, you also seem like a nice guy who’s just trying to understand your girlfriend’s Country. Hopefully, you will be able to travel to places other than Metro Manila and get to know the Philippines more than what is in Manila and written on the news. Even my mother would rather live in the Visayas Region than in Luzon, Metro Manila, hahaha.
Anyways, when I realized my arrogant thoughts, I’ve been able to come to terms with the Philippines or at least the part where my family lives, I’m even trying to learn Tagalog and Illongo now.
Anyways, I wish you good luck with whatever you choose!
Dan,
I have only been to NAIA (for reasons of transit). I always was and am in Cebu. I would never use the word “dysfunctional”. I would only say that the Philippines (as I know and see it) compared to my own country, differs a great deal from each other. There were/are things that annoyed and iritated me (the inefficiency of the public transport in Cebu, to name just one) but all I could and can do is accept the things how they are going. Am I a priviliged guy living with comfortable transport mechanisms? I dont see it that way. After WW2 my parents generation fought for new elan/zest, after first rebuilding the destroyed cities. What I miss in the Philippines is fighting for a better environment, for a better, more efficient transport system. A more efficient transport system will benefit the entire population. People will be home earlier and can leave home later to get to work. It seems to me, they dont care about that.